Punkgirl is officially "out." She knew two years ago that she was gay, but I had asked her to wait a bit, explaining that I loved her whether she was attracted to girls, boys, or both, or whatever, but that she was still very young, and since she's still too young to date, she had plenty of time to decide. She took her time, sought out her real feelings, and confirmed her original assessment that she was a lesbian.
She was disappointed, I think, that we didn't seem shocked, or disappointed, or something, but Coffeeguy and I had always expected Happyboy to have that conversation (though surprisingly, despite his penchant for pink pants and butterfly tops, he has a crush on a girl named "V"), so when Punkgirl came out we sort of just transferred that prepared "we love you no matter what" speech to her. She wears a pin that says, "Gay by nature, fabulous by choice" and carries the book Annie On My Mind around wherever she goes, throwing them out as a flag for those who are like her. She wrote a newspaper for her writing resources class, and in it included a pretend advice column post that questioned the best way to come out.
We took her to Pride, and celebrated with her, and we became followers of GLSEN and PFLAG on Facebook and Twitter.
She is so well-adjusted, and I have to feel like part of that is because of the unwavering love we have for her. Most of it is just because she is who she is.
So now you know. Punkgirl is out. And she is awesome.